Why do the happiest people do these 7 things every day
Everyone wishes to be content. However, many people are not. Is this due to their circumstances or to their perspectives?
That’s an excellent question. Approximately half of your degree of happiness, or what psychologists call your “happy set-point,” is influenced by genetic personality features. That means that half of your happiness is essentially out of your hands.
That’s unfortunate, but it also implies that you have control over 50% of your degree of happiness: health, career, relationships, activities, and so on. So, even if you were born with a tendency to be a little pessimistic, there are things you can do to make yourself a lot happier.
1. Actively pursue your goals.
Goals that aren’t pursued aren’t goals; they’re dreams, and dreams can only make you happy when you’re dreaming.
Pursuing objectives, on the other hand, makes you happy. “People who could identify a goal they were pursuing were 19% more likely to be content with their life and 26 percent more likely to feel great about themselves,” writes David Niven, author of 100 Simple Secrets of the Best Half of Life.
So be grateful for what you have and work hard to acquire more. If you’re pursuing a big goal, make sure to give yourself a pat on the back every time you take a small step closer to attaining it.
But don’t compare where you are today to where you hope to be someday. Compare your current location to where you were a few days ago. Then you’ll get dozens of bite-size morsels of fulfillment – and an endless supply of reasons to be thankful.
2. Do what you do well as frequently as possible.
You know the old adage about the starving-but-happy artist? It turns out that artists are far more satisfied with their work than non-artists, despite the fact that remuneration is significantly lower than in other specialized industries.
Why? I’m no scientist, but it’s obvious that the more you appreciate what you do and feel pleased by it, the happier you will be.
Shawn Achor writes in The Happiness Advantage that when volunteers choose “one of their distinctive strengths and applied it in a different way each day for a week, they became much happier and less depressed.”
Of course, it’s unrealistic to believe you can throw it all away and just do what you love. You can, however, find ways to accomplish more of what you specialize at. Delegate. Outsource. Begin to change the products and services you offer into areas where you can apply more of your capabilities. Find strategies to train more individuals if you’re a superb trainer. Find strategies to streamline your administrative work and get in front of more consumers if you’re a great seller.
Everyone has at least a few things they excel in. Make an effort to do such activities more frequently. You’ll be much happier.
And most likely a lot more successful.
3. Make good friends.
Because there is (ideally) a payout, it is easier to focus on creating a professional network of partners, clients, workers, connections, and so on.
However, there is a distinct advantage to making genuine (rather than professional or social-media) connections. In terms of how happy you feel, increasing your number of friends correlates to increased subjective well-being; doubling your number of friends is equivalent to increasing your income by 50%.
As if that weren’t enough, those who don’t have strong social interactions are half as likely as those who do to survive at any particular time. (That’s a frightening concept for loners like myself.)
Make acquaintances outside of the workplace. Make friends at work. Make friends wherever you go.
Make genuine friends. You’ll live a longer, happier life as a result.
4. Actively express your thankfulness.
According to one study, couples who expressed gratitude in their contacts with each other enjoyed enhanced relationship connectedness and pleasure the next day – both for the person expressing gratitude and, predictably, for the person receiving it. (In fact, the study’s authors described thankfulness as a “booster injection” for relationships.)
Of course, this is also true at work. Express your appreciation for your employees’ efforts, and you’ll both feel better about yourselves.
Another simple technique is to jot down a few things you are grateful for each night. According to one study, those who wrote down five things they were thankful for once a week were 25% happier after 10 weeks, significantly increasing their odds of attaining their happiness set-point.
Happy people concentrate on what they have rather than what they need. It’s motivating to want more in your work, relationships, money account, and so on, but reflecting on what you already have and expressing thankfulness for it will make you much happier.
It will also remind you that, even if you still have big aspirations, you have done a lot and should be proud of yourself.
5. Help other people.
While donating is typically thought to be selfless, it can also be more helpful to the giver than the receiver: It is possible that giving social assistance is more useful than getting it.
Intuitively, I believe we all understand this, because it feels great to assist someone in need. Not only is assisting those in need rewarding, but it also serves as a reminder of how comparably lucky we are, which serves as a good reminder of how grateful we should be for what we already have.
Furthermore, receiving is something you have no control over. You can’t make folks help you if you need it or simply desire it. However, you can always choose whether or not to offer and provide assistance.
And that means you can always control, to some extent, how happy you are, since giving makes you happy.
6.Realize that more money won’t make you happier.
Money is vital. Money does a lot. (One of the most vital is choice.)
But money doesn’t make people happy forever. Money doesn’t buy happiness after $75,000 a year. A larger income is not the path to pleasure or the path to reducing sadness or stress, say two Princeton University academics.
“Perhaps $75,000 is the barrier beyond which future gains in money no longer improve individuals’ ability to perform what matters most to their emotional well-being,” the researchers think.
If you don’t agree, consider this: “Moralistic desire and life satisfaction are inversely associated.” Or, “Chasing things tends to make you less happy.”
It’s the “larger house” syndrome. You desire more space. You need more space. (You don’t, but it feels like it.) So you do. Life is good…until your bigger house is all yours.
Normal becomes new.
“Things” provide only momentary bursts of happiness. To be happier, don’t chase as many things. Chase a few experiences instead.
7. Live your life the way you want to live it.
It doesn’t matter what other people think, especially individuals you don’t even know. It makes no difference what other people want you to do.
Live your life according to your ambitions, dreams, and goals. Surround yourself with people who love and support you for who you are, not for the “you” they want you to be.
Make decisions that are best for you. Say what you actually want to say to the ones who need to hear it the most. Feel free to express yourself. Take a moment to smell the roses. Make new acquaintances and maintain contact with them.
Most importantly, recognize that happiness is a choice. You have control over 50% of your happiness, so start doing more activities that will make you happier.